First let me just say --
if love is measured by doing things for each other then I guess you've always only loved us half of the time.
I IM'd you- no response. Matter of fact you signed out once I sent it!
Sent your Christmas gift - no response.
I sent you a e-card for New Year's - no response.
So February is NOT the only time I have tried to get in contact with you!
And furthermore, calling is not the only form of communication there is to check on a person. Even still, I didn't get a response from you until now and it's to try and make me feel like I haven't been doing my part or to place blame on me??????
I have been just as much there for you as you have for me. I've been let down far more times then you though. Times when I've wanted or NEEDED to hear from you...I didn't. Little girls need their fathers and grown women do too. But you have the audacity to say what you asked me to do? Your the father I'm the daughter. But either way, I can't read minds, and I assume you can't read mine. Because if you could, you be afraid of what my mind can do to you.
Seems like you conveniently remember and forget what you want. I have tried to speak to you about the past (as you know i have always and will always speak my mind), and every time I did YOU didn't want to talk about it. And every time I tried to forgive you long enough to have a relationship with you, you pull stunt like this and try and make me feel bad!?
How dare you say that the only time I call you is when I need something!? Please don't act like you do a lot for me or that you ever have. Why do you even ask if I need something? Why not just send because I MIGHT need something and you know in the past you didn't pay child support you know in the past you didn't do all you could...But I accepted a long time ago that you are a part-time dad and that you "will do what you can," "money kinda funny," and "we'll see what daddy can do." I've grown numb to those facts. And I STILL love you anyway. Mainly because you're my dad and because it's easier not to allow you to hurt me if I face facts.
I asked you to do one thing along time ago and that was to choose to be a full time or a part time dad -- you in your actions have chosen many times to be part time. I will no allow you to try an make me feel bad for your lack of parenting. I have never called you just when I needed something. Honestly, I don't depend on you in that way. I know better.
The fact that your fine with not speaking to your children is your choice. So stop blaming everybody else for your choices. I'm sorry that your sick and that your going through what your going through, but that is not my fault or Pizza's. We are there for you just as much as you are here for us. Matter of fact, Pizza has been there MORE!
Have you dealt with the past? Have you EVER said I'm sorry I wasn't a good dad and that I don't do all I can for my girls? I'm sorry I don't call and check on ya'll when I can or should because I'm the dad!? Have you ever said sorry for placing the blame on my children when they actually do have a right to be hurt?
You do not get to turn things around and put it on us! You do not get to make your sickness a reason to erase your own responsibilities! And guess what, even if you do...we still love you and we will always allow you to be part time as YOU so choose.
The little girl you left is the woman you will face!
Always,
Ebo
1 comment:
hugs ma...they don't know or either they don't get it just how impactful they can be to a daughter's being
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